The debate surrounding women in pastoral leadership is nothing new. As a complementarian, my position on the interpretation of relevant scriptures is clear, and I won’t rehash those well-trodden arguments here. Instead, I want to explore a deeper question: Why is the desire for women pastors so strong among many in the church?
First, it’s important to acknowledge that no one, man or woman, needs to be a pastor. It’s a calling, not an entitlement. So why does the debate hinge on the idea that women must be included in this specific role?
The intensity of this debate reminds me of the Genesis account. In that pivotal moment, Eve took the lead in a decision that should have involved Adam. This act, driven by a desire for autonomy, was the first display of humanity seeking significance outside of God’s design.
The Temptation of Title
Imagine being a woman, convinced of your superior leadership abilities compared to any man in your church. You’re faced with a choice: insist on the title of pastor, or serve faithfully without it, even in the face of perceived incompetence. This was Jesus’ approach. He didn’t fight for a position within the existing power structures. Instead, He served humbly and faithfully, ultimately transforming the world through His sacrifice.
Jesus, who fully knew His divine power and could have easily claimed any position of earthly authority. He could have been emperor, high priest, or the leader of any religious sect. Yet, He chose a path of humility, service, and ultimately sacrifice.
This mirrors the situation of many women (and men) who believe they would excel as pastors. While they may possess the skills and gifts, the pursuit of the title itself can become a distraction from Christ’s model of servanthood. Jesus shows us that true leadership isn’t about grasping for power, but about surrendering to God’s will, even if it means embracing a role that seems less prestigious or influential.
Ambition vs. Humility
The relentless pursuit of the pastoral title stands in stark contrast to the humble, self-sacrificing example of Jesus. His life was not about climbing a corporate ladder or seeking recognition. It was about surrendering to God’s will and serving others.
In a world where men are often driven by insecurity, power, and status, why should women feel compelled to join that race? By embracing a model of humble service, women have the opportunity to set a higher standard for leadership, one that prioritizes compassion, collaboration, and genuine care for others.
Rather than seeking to replicate the often flawed leadership styles of men, women can offer a unique and transformative approach. This isn’t about diminishing women’s capabilities; it’s about recognizing the potential for a different kind of leadership, one that is less focused on titles and more focused on serving Christ and His people.
Identity in Christ, Not Office
Leave the office to us men. We will mess up, as we have throughout history. But God has placed women alongside us, not to compete, but to guide, to nurture, to correct, and to inspire. Is this calling any less prestigious than occupying the pastor’s office? I think not.
I believe that women are incredibly valuable and gifted by God in unique ways. However, the insistence on women pastors often reveals a deeper issue: an identity rooted in a position or title, rather than in Christ. If our ultimate fulfillment were found in Him, the debate wouldn’t be so fierce.
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Disclosure: Written with the help of AI.